Happiness is what everyone is looking for. In other words, happiness is all about learning and doing things we love and loving things we do. If we make this our profession, our lives will be more happier, fulfilling and rewarding. But the question I would like to ask is “How many of us are playing out this role”? Very few, I believe!
What about the rest of the world? Does that mean that life is boring, stressed out and painful? How do we motivate ourselves to live our lives meaningfully? Do people really strive to find their purpose in life? Do they even know what they want and what will make them happy? Are they willing to listen to their heart?
I did! And that’s when my journey began. At first, there was a restlessness. I was not happy at work and knew that this was definitely not the place I wanted to be till i die! So, the next question I asked myself was – where will I find that happiness and what will make me happy? And i didn’t have an answer! That made me put on my first thinking cap. I realized that nobody had asked me that question in my life. Yes, I did get asked questions when I was young about what I wanted to be when I grew up and the answer always changed with the passage of time. I was interested in so many things and that itself was the root of all my confusion.
So, I set out reading books which asked me the questions and I am listing out some questions that helped me put on my thinking cap and get some answers. Find your own set of questions that come to mind to help you find your purpose in life.
- What are my likes and dislikes?
- What are the things I like to do that give me pleasure and happiness?
- Is this something that I do with an ulterior motive or without?
- Do I share myself with everyone?
- What am I doing to give back to society?
- What are my expectations from different people in my life?
- Where do I stand with myself ? Do I think and feel lesser of myself or have the needed self-esteem, confidence and determination to accept myself the way I am?
- Do I love myself?
- Do I stand up for myself?
- Do I share my opinions or do I keep quiet ?
- Do I prove others wrong to prove myself right?
- Do I feel selfish and competitive or am I constantly tempted to have the “frog in the well” attitude?
- Am I an optimistic or pessimistic person. List occasions for both.
All these helped me slowly discover myself underneath the many layers I didn’t even know existed. Fortunately, it didn’t stop me. I went on figuring out myself slowly and surely. And I discovered that I was putting on acts, lying , evading, dodging and more to please people and avoid conflicts and not being myself in the process. All my relationships were fake, unreal. That was what was causing heartburn in the first place. That was the first discovery. What did I need to do to change this and be myself? I realized that I needed to do some more hard thinking. I needed to put on my thinking cap again!